Love coaching: Andreas Winter's guide puts an end to jealousy, loneliness, arguments and disappointment

"Human Rights in Partnership" is the provocative title of the new book for married couples, singles and divorcees, for teenagers and seniors, for gays, lesbians, straights and everyone else. With humor and science, it offers psychology for partners and those who want to become partners.

The key to partnership fulfillment

Broken hearts, divorce wars and loneliness are a billion-dollar market for doctors, psychologists, dating agencies, the entertainment industry and the church. Bestselling author and health coach Andreas Winter knows this too. But unlike them, he relies on scientifically based reflection rather than rose-tinted romanticism: "Anyone who is self-confident, enlightened, open-minded and reflective is a lost customer for the happiness-promising economy," says the head of one of Germany's largest coaching institutes.

For more than three decades, he has been teaching customers from all over Europe how to get rid of a lot of suffering in life with deep psychological analysis. And since love is known to cause a lot of suffering, his guidebook "How to keep your partner in a species-appropriate manner" has made it its mission for the third time in over ten years to help its readers "to be healthy and happy and either live in harmony with their partner or separate peacefully and lovingly without feeling lonely." Supported by the audio coaching of the same name, Winter explains in his usual provocative way what exciting things there are to discover in the search for the key to fulfillment in a relationship - a happy ending guaranteed!

What is love anyway?

Since time immemorial, artists, philosophers, theologians, in fact everyone, have been concerned with the mysterious force that holds people together. Love is one of the most important components of social coexistence, but to this day it cannot be quantified and therefore cannot be researched using scientific methods. We all need love, we all long for it, but there is no general idea of ​​what love actually is.

In order to have a basis for a common understanding, Winter suggests that love in a partnership should be understood as a positive attitude towards a person, which is characterized by unconditional trust, respect, tolerance and admiration, which unites the partners emotionally and rationally. It is therefore an active process that depends equally on two people. In contrast to falling in love, which has more to do with biology and physics due to its rather short-lived narrowing of perception to the beloved, false expectations play no role here. Philosophers like to speak of mutual recognition of the other for their own sake. Put more simply: love is loving your partner as they are and because they are that way.

Three pillars of the partnership

In order to reduce the main components of a partnership to the essentials, Andreas Winter presents a three-pillar model: Pillar one is the physical level, pillar two is the mental level and pillar three is the emotional level. The physical level refers to external characteristics such as appearance, smell and all the key stimuli that a person consciously and subconsciously sends out. The mental level includes everything related to shared interests and rational agreements. The better you are willing to get to know each other, the stronger this supporting force can become. The third supporting pillar is the emotional level and includes the spiritual or metaphysical connection between people, which is completely selflessly related to the well-being of the other. Partnerships based on this pillar last forever. Nevertheless, they lack the material that happy relationships are made of. This requires the most balanced possible mix of all components.

According to Winter, the priority given here depends largely on previous experience with the topic of relationships. In order to discover and explore some of these characteristics that may not be conscious, a depth-psychological audio coaching was produced for the audio book version of the guide. This is intended to help people understand what they have read on an emotional level in order to implement it in their everyday lives.

Book tip:
Andreas Winter: Species-appropriate partner keeping. The secret of happy and lasting love. Mankau Verlag 2019, paperback, 12 x 19 cm, 278 pp., 10.90 euros (D) / 11.30 euros (A), ISBN 978-3-86374-508-0.

Audiobook tip:
Andreas Winter: Species-appropriate partner care. The secret of happy and lasting love. Audio book with coaching. Mankau Verlag 2019, Digifile with 3 audio CDs, total running time approx. 231 min., 19.95 euros RRP (D/A), ISBN 978-3-86374-511-0.

Link recommendations:
More information about the guidebook "Artgerecht Partnerhaltung"
To the reading sample in PDF format
More information about the audio book "Artgerechte Partnerhaltung" (3 audio CDs)
More about the author Andreas Winter
To the Internet forum with Andreas Winter